Tallitha Reese

Decorah’s Charlie Langton will tell you he’s not really a photographer. But we here in Decorah know the truth. He’s a photographer in the greatest sense. I chose his gorgeous prairie tree photo for our center spread this issue, because it just felt like summer – and the promise of fireflies and lushness and magic – but what Charlie is most famous for are his frequent pics of the people of Decorah: Kids hanging out in the shady gazebo at Water Street Park, grocery shoppers grabbing local produce at Oneota Co-op, partners walking hand-in-hand down the streets and alleys of this Northeast Iowa town. Each photo holds moments in time, feelings of a community, snippets of those passing through, passing time, passing by.

Photos get clever captions, like “Mom delighting in embarrassing her kid,” and “Definitely not lactose intolerant,” and “That matchless feel of a spring wind in your beard.” And if you’re on Facebook (and even if you’re not), and you know Charlie, he’s posting a delightful collection of photos of you to help celebrate your birthday.

You can see more of Charlie’s work at his photography exhibit opening on his birthday, August 1, at Impact Coffee in Downtown Decorah, and on display for the rest of that month.

“There aren’t any big photos of people in the exhibit because who would want their mug plastered large on a coffee shop wall for a month?” says Charlie. “So most of the photos are landscapes and town shots. But that didn’t reflect what I do most, so Tanya, Anja [from Perfect Edge Custom Framing], and I came up with the idea of a large collage called ‘We’re All In This Together,’ made up of small 2×3-inch people shots. I still felt the need to ask permission, so I posted on Facebook and Instagram. Remarkably over 200 folks said yes!”

I suggested to Charlie that we make him business cards that say “Community Photographer,” since he’s now retired from a 30+-year career as Communications and Marketing Director at Vesterheim Museum. He had no reply to that, but he did answer five questions for us about his years capturing the essence of this community.

Q&A with Charlie Langton

What is your favorite part of being Decorah’s unofficial “community photographer?”

We are lucky to have a lot of great photographers, and they are all more imaginative and technically proficient than I am. If anyone thinks of me as our unofficial community photographer, it’s only because I am always out taking pictures of everything, everyone, everywhere, all the time – a title earned only by sheer, indiscriminate volume. I love taking photos  – it is among my greatest joys – and folks not only have gotten accustomed to it, they often become spontaneous collaborators. I owe so much to this community, which allows me this happiness fairly unrestricted and which understands the value of seeing our lives reflected back as we live them, uncurated. 

Do you have an all-time favorite photo you’ve taken? What’s the story behind it?

My favorite photograph usually is the last one I took that isn’t awful, until I eventually see what’s wrong with it and need to take the next one. But some photos do have lasting importance for me. During the rash of family farm foreclosures in the 1980s, some farmers were allowed to rent back their land from the bank. But without a few pieces of essential machinery to farm with, the land would be pointless, so at many auctions activists and friends would hold up a white cross to discourage bidding on an item. That way the farmers could buy back their own implements from the bank at the lowest price possible. At one farm sale I took a shot of a man holding up a white cross lit up by the merciless winter sun. That grainy pic on old Tri-X film will always have special meaning for me, capturing a kind of resilience in a tragic time. 

What’s one book and/or movie you think everyone should read or see in their lives?

These sorts of questions are too hard, especially for an English major and a movie buff. I can say that Universal Harvester by John Darnielle is the best book I’ve read in many years, and certainly the best book I’ve read about small-town Iowa. It’s got the pacing of a thriller, but ends up being something else entirely – a moving elegy about loss, rural life, and mothers. It really is a kind of quiet tour-de-force, with evocative passages that will take your breath away. Hipper folks than me know Darnielle from the music group Mountain Goats. Watch any movie by Wim Wenders. And currently on TV, Somebody, Somewhere is matchless.

What would you tell your 22-year-old self, today?

Have the courage to be totally yourself, love whom you love and do what you love. Understand that everything changes, criticisms and praise both fall away in time, and what you’re left with is yourself. There is nothing you do that someone else doesn’t do better, but that’s a poor excuse to do nothing. Fear less, risk more. Actually I tell my 72-year-old self the same things.

What’s inspiring you right now?

We’re coming out of one difficult time, a time of imposed isolation – the COVID pandemic – and seem to be entering another time of isolation, one of deep division and intolerance. So it may seem totally illogical to say, but what inspires me now is other people. So many have faced loss and suffering. So many face discrimination and marginalization. But I am inspired by their courage and their willingness to help and support others despite their own struggles. I am inspired by older people who could virtually mark their end of days on a calendar and yet embrace their fullest lives. And I am inspired by young people who face unimaginable challenges and yet everyday remind us of joy.

Sometimes words get thrown around so often in the mental health and wellness space that they start to lose their meaning. We’ve heard (many times) the various benefits of mindfulness and living in the present. And while the over-saturation of these ideas can lead to an in-one-ear-out-the-other effect, it does not diminish their effectiveness. 

Perhaps the greatest benefit of mindfulness is gaining the ability to respond, rather than react, to our surroundings. “Mindfulness is the awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally,” says mindfulness expert Jon Kabat Zinn.

We can practice mindfulness as we go about our days, present and aware of our surroundings, emotions, thoughts, or sensations. It does not require a specific space, process, or singular focus, and we can shift focus as often as we like (as long as we remain intentional). We make the moment sacred with our intention to remain mindful.

So, let’s sit – in the present – with some mindfulness methods for a moment and allow them to sink in. And keep in mind there is no one-size-fits-all approach to connecting with your reality. The ideas presented here are simply that – ideas. Furthermore, the practices that help us to feel centered and calm one day might not serve us the next. So, here is your permission slip to mix-and-match, check in with what feels good each day, and allow the practice to evolve as you do. 

Building Awareness with Mindfulness

For many of us, our routines allow us to go about our day on autopilot. We can multi-task both physically and mentally. We might be driving and thinking about our grocery list, planning for dinner, or rehearsing (or ruminating over) a conversation. But this takes our mental focus away from – and dulls our experience of – the present moment. 

Now, imagine that same drive but with mindfulness. We hold an awareness of our body in the seat. We might feel our spine grow tall and our hands grip the steering wheel. Perhaps, we shift our attention outward and appreciate the scenery. Or we might bring our attention to the music or a podcast playing in the car. As we focus on the present, we allow our breathing to be deliberate, fluid, and nourishing. We are present and living in the now. 

Mindfulness allows us to go deeper and explore our thought and behavior patterns. We cannot stop thinking; it is a fact. But when we identify with every thought, we lose our identity. When we are driven by every emotion, we lose our calm. And when we are pulled by every image that enters our mind, we lose our peace. 

We are not our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors; we are the observer of those things. The more often we can return to the place of observer, the more we will regain our true identity, calm, and peace. 

We are still human, of course. We will get angry, self-critical, judgmental, and frustrated. We will, at times, lose our temper or act in ways we later regret. If we can take the seat of the observer, though, we can learn to watch those emotions flow without judgment and delay our reaction. After all, it is not the anger that is a problem, but what we choose to do with it. 

Becoming the Observer 

What does it mean to “take the seat of an observer?” For many of us, the idea of watching our thoughts might seem foreign. But with enough practice, it can start to feel familiar and even enjoyable. 

The key to this practice is detachment. When we remain detached, we can begin to observe our thoughts. And when we do so non-judgmentally, we are practicing mindfulness. 

As we start to observe our thoughts, they can seem jarring. At times, our memories can feel intrusive. We might even imagine these thoughts like a toddler demanding our attention. The longer we go without acting on them, the louder and more intrusive they might become. Yet, with patience and persistence, the thoughts will be soothed by the simple act of noticing. 

Another practice that can help with this process is called noting. Noting just means that we take note of the thoughts that emerge. We might lump them into categories such as thought, emotion, or memory. As soon as a thought arises, we note it and let it go. A new thought will emerge, and we repeat the process. 

With practice, we might start to notice patterns emerge. Perhaps we often revert back to anger or resentment. Or maybe we relive the same memories that cause us to develop painful emotions. We might even find ourselves rehearsing future worries. Whatever arises, try to notice the themes without judgment. The more we return to the present moment, the more control we gain over these patterns. The more awareness we develop around our thought patterns, the more power we have to change them. 

Living in the Present

More often than not, our repetitive thinking patterns are negative. We might fixate on a core memory or trauma that brings us back to a place of pain – both physical and emotional – and we get caught up in the “what ifs.” What if that trauma had never happened? We find ourselves living in the past.

On the flip side, sometimes pain can trigger fears of the future, spiraling us into worries about future pain, or – if physical – surgery or medical costs. No wonder chronic pain can feel so crippling. Emotional pain is no different. When we repeat stories from the past or fears of the future in our minds, our problems multiply. 

Coming back to the present moment is a shift from thinking “what if” to “what is.” What is happening in the present moment? What is within my control to change? What is not? Act accordingly. 

Engaging the Senses 

When we shift from what if to what is, we hope to come to a place of acceptance. And, beyond that, the present moment is ripe with sensation. When we open our senses to fully immerse ourselves in the present, our lives can quickly become more enjoyable and meaningful. 

One practice for mindfully connecting with sensation is called grounding. Like mindfulness, grounding can be practiced anywhere and anytime. Grounding is simply a practice of checking in with each of the five senses until feelings of presence, awareness, and calm arise. 

Here is a quick 5-4-3-2-1 grounding practice you can do right now: 

Notice five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can touch, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. 

Walking Meditation

Grounding can also be combined with walking meditation. To do so, make sure you are somewhere that you can walk slowly and mindfully without much distraction. Please make sure the environment is safe. Take slow and deliberate steps. These steps might be taken in sync with the breath. Or, we can turn our attention outward and notice our surroundings. 

First, notice the scenery. Really take in the weather, foliage, and life forms around you as if observing them for the first time. Next, start to listen to your surroundings. You might even stop walking for a moment and close your eyes to heighten the sensation. Take as much time as you like. Then, check in with the sensation of touch. You might feel your breath or your feet as you walk. Perhaps you feel the breeze or the temperature on your skin. After a while, start to notice what you smell. Again, try to connect with this sensation as if it is your first time. Allow your lungs to expand as you breathe in the scents. Lastly, is there anything you taste? (Even if not, checking in with this sensation is an act of mindfulness). 

Walking meditation can be a beautiful practice for appreciating the beauty of nature while moving our bodies. However, grounding can be practiced anywhere. We can ground while we shower, wash the dishes, brush our teeth, or climb into bed. The possibilities are limitless. And an added benefit of this practice is allowing ordinary activities to feel brand new. 

A Few Notes

For people with trauma histories or mental health disorders, mindfulness and meditation can bring up intense emotions. At times, it may be best to practice mindfulness with a therapist. For some people, it may be best to work though the emotions or memories that arise before attempting a mindfulness practice. Mindfulness will be here whenever you are ready. 

Marilyn was interviewed by her granddaughter: Alison Leathers

My Grandma Marilyn is a strong person of faith and has lived a life in service to others; she has an impeccable memory, recalling special memories and family and friends’ birthdays at the drop of a hat; she is a musician and shared her music with thousands of people; she is the queen of card writing, helping to keep the USPS funded; and she has spunk – ready to gracefully stand up for herself and others or share her opinion. To think of Grandma Marilyn is to also think of the Sound of Music playing on her record player; enjoying her julekake, pickled beets, freezer jam, and fruit soup; and enjoying hot summer days tending the vegetable garden and picking strawberries. Marilyn Annette (Myrah) Bunge is a Spring Grove native who grew up on the family farm with three younger brothers. Marilyn enjoyed playing timpani and drums in the Luther College band and played church organ for over 50 years. She married fellow Spring Grove native Waldo Bunge in 1954, and together they raised three children, Andrew, Mary, and Eric. Her commitment to service included leadership roles in the American Lutheran Church Women and in the ELCA Southeastern MN Synod. She also served with a mission team to support Lutheran churches and their work in Bogota, Colombia, and travelled there three times and still keeps in contact with her Colombian friends. Marilyn is always proud that her three children grew up to know and love their grandparents, and she is proud that her seven grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren have gotten to grow up to love and know their grandparents as well. She keeps busy corresponding with her family and friends via email, mail, and phone calls and streams church services and concerts on her computer. Marilyn keeps her family on their toes with her continued spunk and gratitude for each new day.  

What’s the best advice anyone ever gave you?  Be kind to one another is the best advice I have received and try to live by. I know my parents taught me this, and my faith taught me about being kind to everyone. 

Tell us about your life’s path: I attended Luther College beginning in 1948, the same year famed choir director Weston Nobel came to Luther and graduated in 1951 with a Bible and Social Science degree with a minor in Norwegian. Next, I was a parish worker at Grace Lutheran in Fairmont, MN, managing programs for the church parishioners and completing office tasks. I worked for the Dean at Luther College and in the Registrar’s office after getting married, and continued after we had our first child, Andrew. When we moved to Rochester in 1956, I was a stay-at-home mother and welcomed our second child, Mary. We moved to Preston in 1959 and welcomed our third child, Eric, in 1961. I continued to be a stay-at-home mother. There was a need in Preston for someone to teach piano, so I gave it a try and taught for a few years. The only time my kids could watch cartoons was when I was giving a lesson. A few different summers, my family and I worked at Minnewaaken Bible Camp in Cass Lake, MN. Christ Lutheran Church in Preston was in need of an organist, and I was asked to play organ, which I played for 50 years until my eyesight gave out. When my husband retired from teaching, I became the church secretary for Christ Lutheran Church in Preston. In 1992, my husband, three children, and I started our family business, the Cottage House Inn, in Lanesboro, MN. My husband and I were innkeepers until the early 2000s, and it brought us a lot of joy to host others and provide them with a place to relax and enjoy beautiful bluff country.  

Try to describe yourself in one sentence: Marilyn Bunge is a card-writing correspondent, music-lover, grateful for my family – children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and is living a life of faith in service to others.

If you could eat anything every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?  I grew up with my mom making oyster stew on Christmas Eve. I carried on that tradition with my family and grandchildren. That is a favorite meal of mine.

Name one thing you couldn’t live without: I grew up in a world without many things we have today –  electricity, family car, indoor plumbing, running water (we had a pump in the kitchen), and no TV. But the one thing I wouldn’t want to live without is a radio – to hear music, sports, and more.

Tell us about your…Wedding day: Waldo Bunge and I got married on 1/1/54, which everyone thought was crazy, but it turned out to be a wonderful day with a temperature of close to 60 degrees and no snow. We had a fabulous time with our family and friends at Trinity Lutheran Church in Spring Grove, with a reception that included my Grandma Melinda Glasrud’s sandbakkels. My wedding dress was meant to be because the last few weeks I was in Fairmont, our organist had surgery and was unable to play. I played the organ for 8-10 weeks, and my dress cost $100, which was exactly the money I made from playing the organ. My mother Sigrid Glasrud came to Fairmont to help me choose a dress, and that bridal shop redid my mother’s veil for me. The flowers for the wedding were two huge pink poinsettias, and it was the first time I had ever seen a pink poinsettia. My organist friend from Fairmont came to play the organ, and my cousin Helen Vaaler was the soloist who sang “O Perfect Love” and “The Lord’s Prayer.” 

…Favorite Memory: One of my favorite memories is when Waldo and I went to India and Europe during a four-month trip in 1984. We visited a veterinarian who once worked in Lanesboro as a University vet student. He set us up in a guesthouse, and visited schools, a Bible Camp, and friends. Then we went to visit friends in Hungary, Austria, Germany, Sweden, Norway, and England. 

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