
You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Or so goes the old saying. Still, Wendy Stevens sure does try. The Decorah resident and retired Luther College biology professor has hosted a huge annual birthday party for 37 years and counting, baking as many as 30 cakes for 200 people a year.

Each year, guests marvel at the cake party magic. Candles tucked into jars line the walking path. Lofty maple trees circle the event site. Trestle tables await the parade of cakes – annual favorites like chocolate torte, fresh peach cake, and carrot cake, to name just a few – carefully carried by partygoers, one-by-one, to the forest clearing.
The ingredients
Wendy and her husband, Jim, moved to rural Decorah in the early 1970s. The couple raised two sons in a wooded valley with a stream and an old limekiln. Trails, grass, and gardens surround a late-1800s log house that Jim relocated and reconstructed for the family.

In 1987, friends helped the couple pour the concrete foundation for a summer kitchen. It was a drizzly day. Wendy, who started her baking hobby while in graduate school, baked a carrot cake in celebration of the slab being poured – and to celebrate her 40th birthday. As the group stood in the mist, snacking on cake, Wendy remembered some advice from her good friend, Bernice Feltis, a retired Winneshiek County schoolteacher who has since passed away.
“Bernice told me, ‘If you don’t want to be disappointed, you plan your own party,’” Wendy says. “I thought that was really good advice.”
Bernice used to mark her birthday with a grand potluck. From that drizzly afternoon on, Wendy decided to always plan her own party, as well.

A year later, she baked seven cakes and welcomed 20 families for the first cake gathering. Though the date now varies slightly each year, there is always plenty to celebrate. Wendy and Jim both have early August birthdays, and their anniversary also falls in August.
They’ve hosted guests annually since 1988, except for 2020 when COVID-19 risk ran high. That year, Wendy baked a white bundt cake with almond extract. Jim set out lawn chairs and built a fire, and the two of them ate their cake with black raspberry sauce and vanilla ice cream while watching low clouds backlit by the moon.
The recipe
Today, with nearly four decades of parties behind them, Wendy and Jim have developed efficient planning, baking, and setup routines. Early on, Wendy marks her calendar with tasks like defrosting the freezer and cleaning the root cellar. She also tracks ingredients on spreadsheets. For example, to bake 24 cakes in 2016, Wendy used 98 eggs, 127 tablespoons of butter, 26.5 tablespoons of cocoa, and 44 cups of sugar, including granulated, powdered, and brown sugars. Other elements on that year’s shopping list included eight toffee bars, seven cups of strawberries, four cups of walnuts, and two lemons.

Wendy typically starts baking cakes three weeks before the party. Things like cream puffs and meringues are best when made the morning of the event, but she finishes and freezes most other cakes ahead of time. The inaugural party taught her to stretch out her schedule.
“That first year, I only had two nine-inch round pans. It didn’t even occur to me that when the cake comes out, you have to let it cool. Then you have to wash the pan. And I only had a regular-size oven. I could only get a maximum of three pans in the oven at one time,” she says.
Wendy works from a binder of printed recipes framed by notes she’s scribbled over the years. While a few cakes build on boxed mixes, she makes the majority from scratch.
“It’s mostly the same cakes every year. I try to have one or two new ones, but when you make a new cake, it doesn’t always work out like you think it’s going to,” she says.

Ingredient cards are placed on the table for easy cake identification. / Photo courtesy the Stevens
Other surprises sometimes derail Wendy’s careful plans. One year, she started over after leaving sugar out of the cupcake batter. Another time, a carrot cake layer slid from the cooling racks and hit the floor. An angel food cake once emerged from the freezer with a wide dent, and another once went missing. (Wendy later found it in a box at the bottom of the freezer.)
Last summer, as she was baking 28 cakes, the oven stopped working. Jim was in La Crosse buying beer for the party, so a friend helped Wendy shuttle ingredients and an oven thermometer to a neighbor’s house. Wendy thanked the neighbor with a party invitation.
“I’ll invite him again this year. There’s no doubt about that,” she says.
While she bakes most cakes herself, a friend typically provides extra support a day or two before the party. Others help weed the gardens and write up cake descriptions. On party day, Wendy’s sister and family bring lunch for the friends and relatives who assist with prep. Wendy whips the cream and makes each frosting from scratch and then entrusts others to top cakes with chopped fruit, flowers, and carefully swirled frosting.
Meanwhile, Jim positions long tables in the lawn and places candles along the path between the parking area and the party site. He and Wendy also solicit help stacking wood for a towering, post-dinner bonfire. Inspired by Wendy’s years as a Girl Scout, it’s a shoulder-height structure that resembles a log cabin, topped with tall sticks arranged in a tent shape.

Partygoers start arriving around 6:30 pm, and everyone brings a snack to share – “everything from a bag of chips to little open-face sandwiches to salads to fruit to meatballs,” Wendy says. “It’s all sorts of things, so most people don’t eat dinner before they come.”
Shortly before 8 pm, Wendy invites attendees to carry cakes from the house to the party grounds.
Occasionally, someone suggests carrying two cakes at once.
“I have a rule, and that’s one cake per person,” Wendy says. “Number one, people don’t realize how heavy the cakes get. Number two, I just say, ‘If you should happen to fall, then we lose two cakes. This way, it’s just one cake and it’s not that big of a deal.’”

Next, Wendy gives her guests an official welcome, thanks those who helped with party prep, and makes one gentle request.
“I love making the cakes, but it’s hard for me to see cake thrown away if people have taken some and not eaten it. So, I ask that people please take what they’re going to eat and then come back for as much cake as they want later,” Wendy says. “It works. People come up later and say, ‘I ate all my cake.’”
She personally greets each guest who comes through the cake line. People enjoy their slices, chat with other partygoers, and circle near the fire that gets lit around 9 pm. When guests leave for home, they follow the candlelit path back to their cars.

“At the end, it is so magical, silently putting out the lanterns. We put them out starting at the parking area. When we get to the cake area, all that’s left are the glowing coals from the fire, and then all these candles around and on the table,” Wendy says. “It’s like a fairytale, or another Brigadoon. We’re done with another year, and everything reverts back to normal.”
The icing on the cake
In the musical “Brigadoon,” two American travelers happen upon an enchanting Scottish village that appears for just one day every 100 years. But Wendy and Jim have cultivated a more permanent village for themselves: a community of treasured friends and family who look forward to this party every year. Guests have traveled from as far as New Mexico and Hawaii to attend, but most are local friends, relatives, coworkers, and colleagues from volunteer activities.
“This is one way that I can thank these people for being in our lives,” Wendy says.

Back in the party’s 15th year, some friends surprised Wendy and Jim with a custom-made tablecloth that guests got to sign. It still graces a table each year. In 2023, as partygoers celebrated Wendy and Jim’s 50th wedding anniversary and Jim’s 80th birthday, some of those same attendees crafted a three-tiered cardboard cake to hold cards for the couple.
Though hosting the party takes a lot of planning and preparation, marking milestones with friends makes it all worthwhile.
“There’s always a day when I’m thinking, ‘What on earth are you doing? Why are you doing this?’” Wendy says. “But as soon as people start to arrive, I’m done. I can’t do anything more. All I need to do is enjoy these people.”

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Renee Brincks (reneebrincks.com) writes about travel, nature, nonprofits, and small businesses. Her favorite kinds of cake are snickerdoodle bundt cake and white cake with heaps of homemade frosting.

A (cake) walk down memory lane
When Wendy Stevens bakes for her annual birthday party, she chooses cakes that her guests love. While her own favorites include Viennese torte and a devil’s food coconut creme, she enjoys most all flavors on the menu.
“I like just about all of my cakes really well, because you never know what’s going to be left over,” says Wendy, who also serves cake for breakfast the morning after the party.
Here’s what guests have to say about the annual event.
Nancy Bolson
The cake party date is one of the first things Nancy writes on her calendar each year. “It’s just such a big summer event. It’s right up there with Christmas,” she says.
Favorite cake: “I just take little, tiny bits of lots of them, and usually by the time the fork hits the plate, it’s dark. It’s a mingling of these wonderful, whipped cream-chocolate-fruit bites,” Nancy says.
Melissa Brown
Melissa marvels at thoughtful party decorations like wildflowers on the mailbox, candles in jars, and cakes topped with carrot-shaped icing or sweet Johhny Jump Up blossoms. «I love to watch the parade of cakes as partygoers each carry a cake to the tables for cutting,” she says.
Favorite cake: Flourless dark chocolate cake with raspberries, white cake with lemon filling, and better than sex chocolate cake
David Cavagnaro
One year, David and a friend vowed to taste every cake at the party. His friend filled a plate with samples of all the chocolaty cakes, David filled his plate with cakes featuring fruit, and they later traded. They couldn’t pick a favorite, and David says it took about a week of fasting to recover.
Favorite cake: “Well, of course, that is an entirely impossible question!” David says.
Betsy Hayes
Wendy’s sister Besty attends with her husband, Roland, and their daughter and her family. She calls the party a joyful event with sometimes unpredictable weather. “‘Is it on?? Is it off??’ and ‘Everybody, cover the tables!! Everybody uncover the tables!!’ It’s very exciting,” Betsy says.
Favorite cake: Chocolate eclair cake and the layer cake with peach slices and whipping cream
Dale and Frances Garst-Kittleson
“When we got our first invitation, we asked someone about it. I remember their eyes just lighting up. We were told, ‘This party is not to be missed,’” Dale says. “They were right. It is the one not to be missed. It’s beautiful.”
Frances helped make both the guest-signed tablecloth and the cardboard cake that held cards for Wendy and Jim. She appreciates the couple’s graciousness as hosts, and the community they’ve built. “At the end, you make the long walk back to the cars and there are little tiki torches and candles,” Frances says. “It’s always really late, and you’re just walking away very happy and satisfied and full of cake.”
Favorite cake: Cheesecake and the cake with fresh peaches and whipped cream (Frances), plus all the chocolate ones (Dale)

Tips for throwing your own cake party
1. Start small. “People come to this and say, ‘I could never do it.’ At the beginning, maybe seven cakes and 20 families is too many for you. But just start small, and decide how to build from there,” Wendy says.
2. Be flexible if it rains. “The thing that ages me the most is the weather,” Wendy says. “I’ve learned to be real gutsy about doing this…One year we all had to be inside, and that’s the year everybody remembers.”
3. Have fun. “I will always go with Bernice Feltis’ advice: plan your own party. That’s it. If it’s an annual thing, make sure it’s something that you look forward to doing,” Wendy says.

Carrot Cake Recipe by Wendy Stevens
3 eggs, beaten
½ cup canola oil
1 cup buttermilk
1 ½ cups sugar
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 cups flour
1 ½ teaspoons ground cinnamon
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon salt
1 can (8 ounces) crushed pineapple, undrained
2 cups grated carrots
1 cup chopped walnuts
1 cup flaked coconut
Frosting
½ cup + 1Tbsp butter, softened
1 package (8 ounces) regular cream cheese
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
4 ¾ cups powdered sugar
1 tsp. cream or milk if needed to make the frosting spreadable
Preheat oven to 350°
In a mixing bowl, combine eggs, oil, buttermilk, sugar and vanilla. Mix well. Combine flour, cinnamon, baking soda and salt in another bowl, and whisk flour mixture into egg mixture. Stir in pineapple, carrots, nuts and coconut. Line three 9-inch round pans with parchment paper. Put 2 1/3 cups batter into each pan. Bake at 350° for 30-35 minutes. Remove the cakes from the pans after 10 minutes of cooling. Cool cake layers completely before frosting.
To make frosting, combine butter, cream cheese and vanilla. Beat until smooth or blend in a food processor. Add powdered sugar and beat until creamy. Add a little cream or milk if the frosting is too stiff. Spread on cooled cake layers, assemble cake and frost the outside of the cake.